It doesn’t really take much to make a girl feel happy and appreciated. I guess in some ways you can say girls are actually simple creatures. Hah! Who am I kidding, we're the most complex of all God's creations, in my own opinion, I think that sometimes we might not even understand ourselves.... Yes, we are that complex. But one thing that I dare say though, is that every woman/girl appreciates a little bit of chivalry every now and then. It makes us feel nice and it puts a smile on our face, can't really explain why, but it just does.
A few months ago when I was at the bakery with my mom, I saw a young man exiting the shop and there was an old lady who was walking slowly towards the exit. Now this frail looking old lady really had her hands full with her shopping and on top of all that the glass door was quite difficult to open. I expected the boy to hold the door open for her, since he knew she was leaving and he was already standing there anyway, why not spare a few minutes helping her hold the door open. Even if he didn’t have a few minutes to spare, he could have just opened the door wide enough for it to stay open. Instead he pushed the door open, went out and immediately let go of the door which swung back and almost hit the old lady, who luckily backed up in time to avoid getting hit in the face. Since I was just standing there doing nothing, I quickly went up to her and helped open the door for her. She smiled and thanked me. Randomly that incident came to mind and it got me thinking, why can’t men be a little more considerate and nice to women? Is it true that Chivalry is dead?
Thank goodness I can say and I do have proof that it is undoubtedly not dead. It’s just nearing extinction. Yesterday morning I had accompanied my mother to the bank and I was lagging behind as I was replying to a text message, so by the time I reached the door she was already inside. A young man pushed the glass door open just as I was going to go in so I stopped and let him pass. I was expecting him to let go of the door and I was prepared to grab it if it swings back. But the kind and if may I add, good looking (Abigail would at this point say gigglesnort) man just stood there, held the door open for me and gave me a smile and a nod. I thanked him and hurried inside and I was quite surprised and a little flustered by his actions; I mean come on, how often does a guy hold a door open for me? Let me answer that….Very rare and hardly ever happens….
So for all guys who are in a relationship, try being chivalrous once in a while. Hold the door open for her, offer to carry her bag when she’s shopping (it does not make you look gay) and offer her your jacket when it’s cold. She’ll appreciate the gestures and will love you more for it. Don’t believe me? Try asking any girl you know and see what she says about it. Girls tend to envy other girls whose boyfriends treat them like princesses. Don’t get me wrong, you don’t have to pretend to be a perfect gentleman; nobody likes that, if you don’t already know. Just be yourself because there’s nothing worse than a fake. For the guys who are not in a relationship at the moment, there is no harm in being chivalrous too. Just consider it as practise for when you do get a girlfriend. When it all comes down to it, Chivalry is not just about opening doors and helping to carry bags. It's a whole attitude of treating someone with the respect and dignity they deserve. So it shouldn’t be that hard and it shouldn’t be limited to girlfriends and dating….Right?
